EJ's Swingers Parties
Frequently Asked Questions

Here is a list of FAQ's (Frequently asked questions) that we are often confronted with, either at our swinger's party nights, or feedback via other sources.

We have attempted to answer these for you in the best way we can, using the experience gained over the years whilst running our adult swinger's parties.
If you do not agree with some of our answers, that's fine by us, as we are merely attempting to give some guidance to the many that may be new to the lifestyle, or not sure how the swinging scene works.

1. I want to attend a swinger's party but my partner is not too keen on the idea, how can I convince them? - Answer

2. My partner and I are only interested in finding a single bi female, is that possible? - Answer

3. I am a single, so how should I approach a couple? - Answer

4. It's our first time, so do we have to participate in the action? - Answer

5. How do we go about joining in on the action during the evening? - Answer

6. What is the average age of the people at the parties? - Answer

7. Which is the best night to come on, Friday or Saturday? - Answer

8. Does everyone practice safe sex, and do we need to provide our own condoms? (Party Hats as we like to call them!) - Answer

9. Are all the people at the party friendly? - Answer

10. I want to join in on the action at the party but my partner doesn't want to participate, is it still OK if I do? - Answer

11. Should we just use the party to meet people and then arrange to go back to our place rather than playing with them whilst at the party? - Answer

12. What's wrong with having a few drinks to loosen up? - Answer

13. Do you have mainly good looking people at your party? - Answer

14. How many people will be at the party? - Answer

15. How many guys and how many girls will be at a party? - Answer

16. Why bother wearing erotic dress, why can't we just wear our normal clothes? - Answer

17. Do we have to change into erotic dress straight away after we arrive? - Answer

18. Does everyone play, or are willing to play, at a party? - Answer

19. How much action may happen during the course of an evening? - Answer

20. Can I get guaranteed that something will happen for me if I come to a party? - Answer

21. If we book in for a party as a couple and one of us can't make it, can the other still just turn up? - Answer

22. Why do we have to arrive at the party before 10.00pm? - Answer
    

1. Q: I want to attend a swinger's party but my partner is not too keen on the idea, how can I convince them?
   A: Basically if your partner has to be talked into it, he or she is probably not interested, and even if you did manage to convince them to attend, unless it is totally their idea you may end up causing major problems between you, and is that really worth it?
   

2. Q: My partner and I are only interested in finding a single bi female, is that possible?
   A: Yes it is possible, but not always realistic at a swinger's party. Most of the single girls that attend our parties seem to come with the intention of getting together with mainly the guys, rather than couples, as they can often find it somewhat restrictive with couples.
   If you are a couple seeking the bi female thing, you would have a better chance if you tried to organise this at the party with another couple, rather than just the female only.
   

3. Q: I am a single, so how should I approach a couple?
   A: If you are a single, and would like to get together with one partner out of a couple, it would be best if you tried to get to know them both, and not to single out just one of them. I think you will find most couples fairly comfortable with the fact that others have approached them both, and not trying to go behind one's back, as they say, to get to the other partner.
   

4. Q: It's our first time, so do we have to participate in the action?
   A: If it's your first time at a swinger's party, it's usually best to treat it as a social night, as there is definitely no obligation to participate in anything you don't want to. If you think that would like to take things a little further, then that's entirely your choice.
   

5. Q: How do we go about joining in on the action during the evening?
   A: It is usually best to get to know people first, watch how it all works, and if then you wish to take things a little further with them, just ask politely.
   To ask is the best policy, if you don’t ask, or try to dive right on in, you will most likely get a knock back, or worse. Keep in mind every swinger was a first-timer at some stage so the more experienced one's should know how you feel.
   

6. Q: What is the average age of the people at the parties?
   A: The age of our guests can vary from 18 years minimum to a maximum of 50, with the average varying between these ages from party to party.
   Note: Guests in the younger age bracket requiring entry may be asked for proof of age.
   

7. Q: Which is the best night to come on, Friday or Saturday?
   A: There is no real difference between these two nights unless we happen to be running a particular theme on a certain night. Other than that the best night is what you yourself make of it.
   

8. Q: Does everyone practice safe sex, and do we need to provide our own condoms? (Party Hats as we like to call them!)
   A: We are all adults so should be able to make adult decisions, so therefore we are not going to preach to you what is right or wrong as it's not our place; we will simply say that we recommend safe sex, and we do provide all the Party Hats (Condoms) and Lubricants etc, but obviously can not enforce it!
   This is something that is really up to individuals at the time, which is fine as long as those who are playing together mutually agree in one way or the other, and respect the wishes of the one's that do prefer safe sex.
   If safe sex is something that you prefer, then simply insist on this with those you are playing with.
   If you see others not conducting safe sex, it's not your place to tell them that they should be, as that's their choice and their choice only!
   

9. Q: Are all the people at the party friendly?
   A: I think we could safely say that most couple's and single's at swinger's parties are quite friendly and approachable if done in a polite fashion, at the worst you will probably achieve a least a decent conversation if you are not quite their type, and at best, well, you know the answer to that.
   

10. Q: I want to join in on the action at the party but my partner doesn't want to participate, is it still OK if I do?
    A: Participation is not compulsory at our parties, although if you intended to join in on things if you got the chance, your partner should be willing to participate also.
    

11. Q: Should we just use the party to meet people and then arrange to go back to our place rather than playing with them whilst at the party?
    A: Our parties are designed to provide people with a safe and discrete place to meet and interact with other like minded guests. If you decide to take things elsewhere, you must consider how well do you really know these people you have just met! Basically you're on your own with this one!
    Also by choosing to leave early with them and continue playing elsewhere, you may loose the atmosphere and find things a little uncomfortable by placing pressure on yourselves to carry out what you have arranged.
    

12. Q: What's wrong with having a few drinks to loosen up?
    A: When it comes to alcohol, most of us do not mind a drink or two, especially to calm the nerves. That’s fine by us, but in moderation.
    When you are walking around in a place that is not familiar to you, not wearing very much at all and moving in a suggestive sort of way, the last thing you want is for some drunken idiot spoiling your night.
    

13. Q: Do you have mainly good looking people at your party?
    A: We do not consider size, shape, looks, etc. to be of importance. We believe that each person is an individual and has a personality of his or her own, which is the main priority. If you consider that other peoples looks are a high priority for you, we would suggest that swinger's parties are not for you!
    

14. Q: How many people will be at the party?
    A: Numbers will vary from night to night, and we may not know ourselves until a few hours before the party starts after we have closed for bookings, but normally we would have between about 20 to a maximum of 40 on any one night.
    

15. Q: How many guys and how many girls will be at a party?
    A: For the couples only nights, the answer to this should be fairly obvious.
    For the mixed singles and couples nights the ratio of guys can vary from even to around 2 guys per girl, depending on various circumstances.
    

16. Q: Why bother wearing erotic dress, why can't we just wear our normal clothes?
    A: Erotic dress is an essential part of helping to create the atmosphere at a swinger's party, assisting many to get into the mood of it all, and maybe even help with loosing some of those inhibitions.
    

17. Q: Do we have to change into erotic dress straight away after we arrive?
    A: It makes things easier this way, as if this were not the case, many may want to wait until someone else did so first, and we can all see were that could lead to, not to mention a pretty slow sort of an evening!
    

18. Q: Does everyone play, or are willing to play, at a party?
    A: If guests decide to play during the party evening, that is entirely up to themselves. Some may choose to just relax and socialise for the night, whilst others may get involved in other things. This can vary from night to night.
    

19. Q: How much action may happen during the course of an evening?
    A: This will vary every party and will usually be quite unpredictable, as it can depend on many things.
    Some nights there can be quite a lot happening whilst other evenings may be a bit more relaxed and laid back. We never know this until it happens.
    

20. Q: Can I be guaranteed that something will happen for me if I come to a party?
    A: No, definitely not. Guests attend parties of their own free will and participation is purely optional for all.
    

21. Q: If we book in for a party as a couple and one of us can't make it, can the other still just turn up?
    A: If you both book in for a party you would both need to attend, or else call us to both cancel, or make other arraignments with us, keeping in mind that the Saturday nights are for couples only.
    

22. Q: Why do we have to arrive at the party before 10.00pm?
    A: Getting to know each other is an important part of the evening at a swinger's party, as it can be a bit hard to get involved later with people you haven't even spoken to, and would be generally considered rude just to jump right on in to things with total strangers without those initial introductions.
    If guests turned up at various times during the evening, it would make this socialising time almost impossible for those that arrived late when the party is already well under way.
    

If you have a question that you believe is not covered here, and you think should be, just send it to us and we will try to answer it as best we can and add it to this list!